FIRST ONE- Not enough space for stuff tho this one can be fix
And the nail one- I would still forget xD
but omg all of them are really great!
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COMPROMISE VS TO STAND YOUR GROUND
Relationships are full of give and take situations, and being able to compromise is generally considered to be a good thing. But there are situations that arise where you need to stand your ground and not give in. Here’s when to compromise and when to stand firm:
Compromise
If you always get your way. If you’re the one always winning every debate and your partner is always giving in to what you want, it’s time for you to switch roles and start being the one to compromise. Your relationship won’t last much longer if you are never willing to give in.
If the issue is really important to them. If you’re dealing with something that you know is really important to your partner, it might be worthwhile to compromise and let them have their way.
If it’s not a big deal. If you’re not hung up either way on the outcome, then pick your battles and let them win. Compromising on little things that don’t really matter to you is easy to do and you can save getting your way for when it’s a bigger deal to you.
As a tradeoff. If you both want something you can give in on one issue as a tradeoff to getting what you want on another. Maybe you’ll go to their family reunion if they agree to give you more romantic time together, or whatever it is that you want. You’re compromising but you both end up winning.
Stand Firm
If it’s a major issue for you. Don’t compromise when you believe strongly in something and it’s really important to you. You can be flexible but still stand your ground and not compromise your integrity and values.
If they’re pressuring you. Stand firm and don’t allow yourself to be pressured into anything that you aren’t comfortable with. Don’t give in to something just because they’re really bugging you about it.
If you always let them win. If you’re always giving in and letting them get their way it’s important to stand firm once in a while so that they know that you aren’t a doormat. You should both get your way equally, rather than having one person dominate.
When they want something out of sync with your “big picture”. If they want something that isn’t in line with the direction you want the relationship to go in, then you need to stand your ground. Don’t compromise and allow them to steer the relationship in a different way than you want. If you have a committed, long term relationship in mind and they want to be able to date other people on the side, stand firm because if you give in, the relationship will be completely off-base from what you want.
If You’re Being Chased…
Dream: You are pursued by an animal, an attacker or an unknown figure who wants to hurt or kill you.
Interpretations:
- Anger/Jealousy/Fear- The attacker in your dream may represent an aspect of yourself. Your own feelings of fear, anger, jealousy can manifest itself as the threatening figure.
- Drive & Ambition/Catching Up- If you are the one doing the chasing, it may represent your ambition to go after something you want, or it may suggest that you are falling behind and need to catch up.
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This is a good thing to have here, they finally notice all they suicidal posts on Tumblr.
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How to Love Yourself More
1. Set aside some time to think through why you feel you’re not good enough, or don’t deserve to be loved. Then actively counter each of those reasons. This is a really crucial step for you to take.
2. Make a list of at least 10 of your positive traits and strengths. Each day, add at least 2 more items to your list.
3. Commit to only saying positive and affirming things about yourself – that is, your face, your body, your personality, your abilities, and so on.
4. Decide to hold your head high, smile, look people in the eye, and always speak slowly, and with confidence.
5. Have the courage to list and face some of the worst mistakes you’ve made, or some of the challenges you’ve found hard to overcome. Then, gently admit to yourself that you are not perfect. In fact, none of us is perfect, and we all start from different places in life. What has been hard for you may have been easy for someone else. Choose to not be so hard on yourself – forgive yourself for EVERYTHING and then just choose to let it go!
6. Go through your closet and experiment with your clothes until you find something that you feel really good in. Choose to wear that – and to buy other outfits that make you feel good about yourself and your appearance. Get rid of clothes that lower your self-confidence or self-esteem.
7. Learn to listen to your body and mind, and treat what they are saying with kindness and respect. If you are tired, rest. If you are feeling worn out or emotionally drained, then withdraw and consciously seek to build yourself up.
8. Do something nice for yourself each day. Buy yourself some flowers, some new clothes, some music … or go for a jog, get your hair or nails done …. Whatever makes you feel pampered and special and loved.
9. Give yourself permission to say “no” to the things that make you unhappy, or drain your energy.
10. Keep reminding yourself that you ARE valuable - and you deserve to be loved and treated well.
11 Common Errors in Thinking
According to Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, we often feel anxious, upset and annoyed because of certain errors in our thinking. These are faulty ways of looking at life which are automatic - and also very common. However, if we identify and change our way of thinking then our feelings are reactions will be much healthier. These errors in thinking include the following:
1. All –or – Nothing Thinking: Where the person evaluates themselves, others, situations and the world in extreme categories. It doesn’t allow for grey areas in thinking. “I’m a terrible parent.”
2. Overgeneralizing: Thinking that because a bad experience happened once, then that’s the way it’s always going to be. For example, “I know I’ll fail my driving test. I’ve already failed it three times”.
3. Discounting the Positives: Ignoring the positive aspects of a situation and saying that they don’t count. For example, generally getting good marks in school – but not praising yourself for that. One paper gets some negative feedback and you tell yourself you’re a useless student. The positive results are ignored.
4. Jumping to Conclusions -This has two aspects to it: mind reading and fortune telling.
(i) Mind reading is thinking you know what others are thinking without any evidence. For example, a person with social anxiety assumes her colleagues think she’s useless at her job.
(ii) Fortune telling is predicting that the future will turn out badly. For example, going for a routine mammogram and concluding that you have cancer.
5. Magnifying / Minimising: Evaluating the importance of a negative event, or the lack of evidence of a positive event, in a distorted manner. (Blowing things out of proportion.) For example, concluding that your sister doesn’t like you anymore because she forgot to send a birthday card.
6. Emotional Reasoning: Believing that something must be true because it feels true. For example, when your boyfriend is an hour late in arriving for a film, you conclude that he isn’t interested in you. You discount the fact that, maybe, the bus was late, or he was delayed at work.
7. Labelling: Using a label (bad mother, idiot) to describe a behaviour - and then taking on board everything associated with that label. Seeing things is global terms. For example, a friend says or does something thoughtless. You label then them as “a terrible friend” and now you interpret anything they say in a hostile and negative way.
8. Personalization and blame: Where a person totally blames themselves for something that’s gone wrong when it is not their fault. For example, a soccer team member thinks she’s “put the coach in a bad mood” because she missed a goal. She discounts the fact that the coach may have been annoyed before the game started. The opposite is to totally blame another for something. For example, a wife may blame her husband for the break up of their marriage and not admit that she had any part in it.
9. Catastrophizing: (Similar to fortune telling) Dwelling on the worst possible outcome. For example, an employee had to do a presentation. He became obsessed with thoughts of performing badly, letting the company down, losing his job, then losing his home and family.
10. Making “should” or “must” statements: Where the person has a fixed idea of how they, others or life should be. These become “rigid demands”. When they person is disappointed (as will inevitably happen) they become very upset and overestimate how bad this will be for them. For example, a student berates themselves for only getting 89% in an exam – when they wanted all their results to be in the 90s.
11. Selective abstraction: Dwelling on one negative detail instead of seeing the bigger picture. For example, a girl gets a haircut and 8 of her friends say they love it. One person says they preferred her old style. The girl thinks about that for hours and hours and wonders if she should have changed her hairstyle.
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How to Increase your Happiness
1. Experiment to find out what makes you happy. The answer will be different for different people.
2. Develop a network of supportive friends who love you as you are, and will be there for you.
3. Cultivate an attitude of gratitude, and don’t forget to notice when the little things go well!
4. Be the type of persons who’s focused on solutions and isn’t always bogged down by problems, or complaints.
5. Accept that nothing’s perfect – and problems will occur. It doesn’t mean it’s hopeless or things will never change.
6. Treat yourself, and other people, with kindness and respect. Remember we’re all struggling to find our way in life.
taken from here.
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Que amargo se siente tener que pedirle un favor a alquien que te cae mal.
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